357 I+have+this+horrible+student%2e+He+comes+into+class+higher+than+a+kite%2c+and+only+does+what+he+feels+like+doing%2c+no+matter+how+hard+I+try+to+get+him+to+enjoy+the+activities%2e+I+have+tried+to+have+him+choose+the+sport+or+activity%2c+yet+he+won%27t+play+and+will+leave+when+he+chooses%2e+He+also+often+blurts+out+swear+words%2e+I+teach+at+an+ALC%2c+and+these+students+have+issues%2c+yet+I+am+at+my+wits+end%2e+Any+help%3f%3f%3f
358 I+would+try+to+put+some+concequence+on+him+that+would+make+a+ladder+to+something+that+he+really+wouldn%27t+want+to+happen%2e++For+example%2c+I+would+tell+him+that+he+can+either+participate+in+the+activity+or+stay+after+class%2e++If+he+leaves+class+without+staying+after%2c+he+can+have+the+choice+of+making+up+the+time+during+the+next+class+or+stay+after+school+on+day%2e++Then+go+to+the+next+step+of+staying+after+school+or+have+your+parents+called%2e++So+you+have+to+come+up+with+the+consequences+for+him%2c+but+give+him+a+positive+choice+%28and+stress+it%29+and+also+give+hime+the+negative+consequence%2e++Let+him+make+the+choice+and+you+apply+the+consequence+to+his+choosen+behavior+%28good+or+bad%29%2e++Maybe+say+participate+for+five+minutes+and+get+a+minute+of+your+own+time%2e++I+hope+this+helps%2e+Good+luck%2e%0a%0aScott+Stefl%0aUte+Creek+Secondary+Academy%0aHealth+and+Physical+Education+Teacher
359 No+it+would+not+work%21+For+one%2c+There+is+no+staying+after+class+or+school%2e+An+ALC+is+Alternative+Education%2e+Most+of+the+parents+here+would+not+come+to+a+conference%2c+they+would+tell+me+to+F%2ack+off%2c+as+do+most+of+my+students%2e+All+of+these+students+are+here+because+of+truancy+issues%2c+and+they+hate+traditional+schools%2e+A+minute+of+his%2fher+own+time+would+result+in+that+student+leaving+school+or+going+out+for+a+smoke%2e+I+am+trying+to+teach+students+responsibility%2c+and+a+minute+of+their+own+time+isn%27t+responsibility%2c+it+is+letting+them+slack+off+on+my+time%2e+Thanks+for+your+input%2e
360 anonymous%2c%0a%0ai+think+you+are+dealing+with+a+very+frustrating+but+too+typical+situation%2e++i+can%27t+offer+you+any+help+at+this+point%2c+however+I+have+given+trhe+scenario+to+my+secondary+methods+students+and+will+forward+their+ideas+to+you%2e++maybe+our+promising+professional+can+give+us+some+ideas%2e%0a%0aani+frank+%0aDePaul+University%0a%5cmail%7bafrank%40depaul%2eedu%2cafrank%40depaul%2eedu%7d
363 C%27mon+he+is+getting+worse+and+worse+by+the+day+please+i+need+some+strong+advise
384 I+believe+the+student+needs+to+be+given+a+survey+at+the+beginning+of+your+class%2e+Have+++him+write+about+his+likes+and+dislikes+about+your+class+activity+for+the+day%2e+He+might+find+that+he+likes+the+activity+when+he+writes+about+it+and+it+will+give+you+and+him+something+to+talk+about+after+you+have+reviewed+his+survey+after+class%2e+Maybe+through+his+survey+you+can+get+him+to+express+himself+in+a+way+that+will+get+both+of+you+to+a+common+ground+on+this+issue%2e+You+could+also+make+up+a+student+behavior+contract%2e+In+this+you+will+want+to+include+a+range+of+things+that+the+student+will+be+rewarded+with+when+he%27s+good+and+also+a+range+of+punishments+when+he+is+bad%2e+Hopefully+this+will+open+up+a+new+way+to+communicate%2e+Good+luck
386 To+the+teacher+who+is+having+difficulty+with+the+student+please+e%2dmail+me+at+%5cmail%7bpe4life77%40hotmail%2ecom%2cpe4life77%40hotmail%2ecom%7d%2e+I+have+some+ideas%2e%0a%0aYahrasiel+Davis%0aHealth+and+Physical+Education+Teacher%0aBethune+Middle+School%0a5200+Covington+Highway%0aDecatur%2c+GA+30350
390 Sit+him+down+and+have+a+heart+to+heart+with+him%2e++Ask+him+if+he+likes+anything+about+your+class%2e++Ask+him+is+he+likes+to+participate+in+any+type+of+sport%2e++Inform+him+of+his+behavior+problems%2e++Work+out+some+type+of+agreement+with+him%2c+be+it+a+behavioral+contract+or+a+verbal+agreement%2e++%0a%0aMost+of+the+time+when+I+have+really+problem+kids+and+I+just+take+the+time+to+sit+down+with+them+and+talk+to+them%2c+things+work+out%2e++You+have+to+approach+this+using+the+sandwhich+method%2e++%0a%0aStart+with+some+praise+%28make+up+something+if+you+have+to%29%2c+then+get+to+the+meat+of+the+situation%2c+and+then+end+with+more+praise%2e++%0a%0aIf+after+this%2c+he+still+acts+like+an+pain+in+your+rear%2c+fail+him%2e++Tell+him+that+you+are+not+going+to+give+up+on+him+but+that+he+decides+his+grade%2d%2dnot+you%2e++Tell+him+he+can+get+whatever+grade+he+wants+as+long+as+he+earns+it%2e++%0a%0aSpeak+to+him+about+what+he+wants+for+his+future%2e++Can+he+honestly+go+on+in+the+%26quot%3breal+world%26quot%3b+acting+this+way%3f
391 To+anonymous%2c+%0aThat+is+very+good+advice%2e+It+sounds+like+it+actually+could+work%2e+Thank+you+I+am+going+to+go+give+it+a+shot+after+spring+break%2c+I+will+let+you+know+how+it+goes%2e
400 I+tried+it+yesterday%2c+Today+was+ok%2e+However+he+and+another+student+kept+looking+at+me+and+laughing+while+they+were+playing+basketball%2e+I+think+they+have+something+on+there+mind+and+that+this+student+didnt+take+what+i+said+yesterday+seriously%2e+we%27ll+see+how+this+week+goes%2e
418 My+house+was+egged+last+weekend%2c+strong+rumor+has+it+by+the+student+that+I+am+having+a+hard+time+with%2e+He+said+his+future+is+to+make+my+life+miserable%2e
421 You+can%27t+save+them+all%2e++I+wouldn%27t+waste+another+minute+on+him%2e++Fail+him%2e++Let+him+sit+there%2c+as+long+as+he+doesn%27t+disrupt+your+class%2e
432 Sometimes+it+helps+to+call+the+parents%2c+tell+them+that+you+need+their+help+and+ask+for+their+suggestions%2e++At+the+very+least%2c+you+might+come+up+with+a+plan+that+you+could+use+together%2e++I+once+had+a+student+who+I+won+over+by+telling+him+that+if+he+didn%27t+get+his+act+together+by+Xmas%2c+his+parents+and+I+agree%2c+he+would+not+get+any+Xmas+presents%2e++You+should+have+seen+his+face%2e++Things+changed+radically+and+for+the+better+after+that%2e++But+basically%2c+he+was+a+well+adjusted+young+man+who+was+just+being+lazy%2e++Your+young+man+sounds+like+someone+who%2c+when+he+arrives+high%2c+should+be+sent+to+the+nurse%2e++The+principal+should+be+informed+of+his+drug+abuse+during+school+and+you+should+have+someone+in+the+building+who+you+could+send+him+too+when+he+is+either+verbally+or+physially+abusive%2e++I+do+agree+that+talking+it+out+could+be+helpful+with+some%2c+though+it+does+not+work+all+the+time%2e
436 You+don%27t+understand%2e+There+is+no+parental+support%2e+His+father+is+in+prison%2c+and+his+mother+smokes+pot+with+him+at+home%2c+she+is+also+suffering+from+a+mental+illness%2e+She+recently+took+her+7+year+old+son+and+fled+her+home%2c+going+to+a+shelter%2c+telling+them+that+she+was+being+chased+and+wouldn%27t+go+back+home+until+%26quot%3bthey%26quot%3b+were+gone+for+good%2e+the+police+don%27t+know+who+%26quot%3bthey%26quot%3b+are%2e+My+student+is+18+and+can+legally+stay+at+home%2e+Social+workers+are+aware+of+this+situation%2c+but+I+have+to+take+him+in+my+class%2e
437 You+are+right%2e++I+did+not+understand%2e++I+am+not+sure+I+completely+understand+now%2e++What+is+an+ALC+class%3f++What+is+the+support+personnel+in+your+school+doing+with+this+young+man%3f++What+policy+does+the+school+have+for+students+who+arrive+high%3f++%0a%0aYou+should+not+be+left+hanging+out+to+dry%2e++There+should+be+services+to+help+you%2e++At+the+very+least%2c+you+should+not+have+to+contain+a+young+man+who+is+high+and+verbally+abusive%2e++And%2c+since+it+is+unlikely+that+you+can+solve+a+deep+seated+problem%2c+which+he+probably+has%2c+you+are+going+to+have+to+separate+yourself+emotionally+from+this+one+and+remember%2c+when+his+behavior+is+unacceptable%2c+he+does+not+belong+within+a+group%2e++Send+him+to+the+nurse%2c+to+the+principal+to+your+chairman%2c+or+straight+to+the+SW+of+school+psychologist%2e
438 An+ALC+is+for+alternative+students%2e+Most+of+our+students+get+kicked+out+of+their+home+school+for+truancy%2c+falling+a+year+or+more+behind+in+school%2c+or+they+are+users%2e+We+have+a+separate+location%2c+but+each+individual+school+busses+their+students+here%2c+or+they+drive%2e+there+are+over+100%2c000+ALC+students+in+the+state%2c+and+drug+testing+is+way+behind%2e+He+has+been+suspended%2c+sent+home%2c+etc%2e+The+state+says+we+must+take+him%2c+he+has+no+place+to+go+and+we+must+offer+him+an+education%2e+I+was+finally+able+to+drop+him+and+he+gets+0+credit+for+PE%2c+he+must+take+it+in+Independent+Study%2c+which+means+he+will+have+to+go+to+a+fitness+club+and+get+it+signed%2c+or+go+get+his+GED%2e+I+am+just+happy+he+is+off+of+my+attendance+sheet%2e